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I Am Sorry, girl.

December 17th, I woke up to a news of a girl being raped and dumped on Delhi streets along with his male friend who was beaten up as well. We as a country are so “used to” incidents related to sexual offence that any other news on such incidents..ummm..is just another news? right
After this incident and as and when details started pouring in, I came to realize that it was just not a rape,but it was something which cant be done by humans. I have read a lot about beasts and daemons, but trust me after this incident I believe that they are not just folk fores they live among us, or for that matter in our brain.

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People seem to be up from their slumber, coming out and protest, just because this incident got media attention, can you imagine plight of those women, girls, minor who are raped daily without their plight getting noticed?

I am more concerned about the underlying behavioral change an Indian male is going through. We agree or not, but for majority of Indian males women are an object of sexual fantasy. no matter that male is educated or not. Every one seems to aspire for that one moment towards their object of desire. I might sound strange, but this is a fact.

As of now people will protest, pour their condolences on social media, have a coffee table discussion, till the time it fizzles out of their attention span and news channel starts bombarding us with some different issue.

See the point is that we need to introspect that is this feeling of anguish for this incident is really coming from bottom of our heart or is it because of media’s attention that we are following up? If you say the later as your option then I would say that go and enjoy your new year party, because on 1st of January when you will wake, by then you would have moved on to new year messages and tweets.

But yes, if you feel anguished not about just this incident but for every that incident which becomes a small headline about some or other sexual offence then we are on same page.

Question is, that are we heading in right direction as a human being? I have one sister too and I want her to enjoy her life to fullest without any limitations and boundaries defined for her, but every time such incidents happen, I am shaken within, and I ensure that I am teaching my little sister that how to be secure in public, what to do and what to avoid, just because she is living among beasts.

Though it’s a cliche now, but still is very relevant, we worship female gods, but an average Indian male given an opportunity will not hesitate in hurting modesty of a female, and that can be anything, even a simple case of eve teasing.

It’s high time, not to mourn but to get up and ensure that we as an individual have our thoughts sorted out, inculcate right values, be aware, and alert, because change in India is a long process, when it took almost 100 years to gain independence, then I can only hope that great grand children of this generation might see a better place to live in. Till then we can be part of an evolution which will eventually bring either of these two things. i.e. either we will succumb as a nation into moral bankruptcy, or we will cross over to a better and stable future where women will be seen as human being and not just object of sexual desire.

On this note, I want to say that I am terribly shameful of being an Indian at times and want to say that to the innocent girl who died, that where ever you are, I am sorry for you, because you didn’t deserve this just because you were a girl. I know I will say RIP, but I also know that getting this kind of end, no soul can rest in peace.I am sorry again. Hope your battered soul finds some moment of solace.

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Wanted-Respect!

Day before yesterday I saw this news of Guwahati debacle, where some 20 odd people (sorry they are not actually humans) outraged modesty of a girl shamelessly on streets.

The whole incident sent a chill down my spine, and forced me to think that where we as a human being are heading for? Or for that matter are Indian men so much sexually starved that this need is now converted in the only need they have in their life?

Psyche of such people who get involved in such acts is something which one should observe. I just wonder that why we have established a female as an object of lust? or for that matter why is it so difficult to respect a fairer sex?

Our value system, moral and ethics do teaches us since our child hood that one should respect elders, one should respect his mother, but no where it teaches that when you grow up, you need to respect other females as well. No one teaches a kid that once he grows up he needs to understand that morality is just not about giving respect to his mother and sister, it stretches beyond that.

Some how I believe that majority of Indian males are somehow loosing this race to basic sense of morality.

Rape, molestation, sexual assault, if these words are so dominant in your daily dose of news then it’s pretty easy to interpret that where we are heading for north or south?

At times I wonder, we have heard a lot about this issue, but do we really have a solution? If yes then what? Biggest issue I feel is that these incident are thrown in your face on day one and eventually it fades out of public memory getting replaced by some other incident. Morality and ethics is something which can be taught only with iron will, when one is clear that who all are the accused, then authorities should simply crack whip on such people like anything, go for them, punish them so hard that next time people like them think twice before they commit such things against a female

Somewhere down the line few examples need to be set if we really want to get things done. But equally important is to change the core of our thought process related to a female. Female is not equivalent to words like sex or lust, there is much more beyond that, they are your friends, your well wishers, even if not that, they are some one else s daughter and sister.

Some how being a guy I feel ashamed every time such things happens with a girl, I wish India or for that matter whole world becomes a safer place for the fairer sex. Amen!